Some studies show that about 91% of men and 39% of women regularly experience orgasm during penetrative sexual contact. However, issues with achieving orgasm during masturbation occur in only 5% of women, according to various estimates.
Orgasm from penetration:
Similar to the male penis, one of the primary female erogenous zones is considered to be the clitoris. They are structurally similar, developing from the same embryonic tissues and consisting of erectile tissue. When aroused, both the penis and clitoris receive blood flow, leading to erection.
However, unlike the penis, which serves as an outlet for both semen and urine, the clitoris lacks urethral ducts or glands that produce lubrication. The clitoris serves no practical function other than pleasure, and it fulfills this task well, with a majority of women experiencing orgasm through its stimulation.
During orgasm, women’s pelvic floor muscles rhythmically contract, providing a definitive sign that orgasm has occurred. This process can last from a few seconds to several minutes, with the intensity, duration, and frequency of orgasms varying even within the same woman.
Even if orgasm occurs during penetration, it is incorrect to refer to it as a vaginal or anal orgasm. There is only one orgasm, and the pleasant sensations during penetrative sex are provided by the clitoris, thanks to the legs that embrace the vagina internally. The only difference lies in the type of stimulation. The more mobile the clitoris, the more likely it will shift towards the front wall of the vagina during penetration, leading to orgasm.
According to some studies, less than 30% of women can experience orgasm solely from penetration, and even in these cases, orgasms may not occur every time. Most women require external stimulation during penetrative sex, and that is perfectly normal.
The ability to experience orgasms from penetration or its absence does not make anyone better or worse, nor are orgasms considered right or defective. It’s simply a matter of individual variation.
How to achieve orgasm:
Wanting to experience orgasms is normal. However, before experimenting with internal stimulation, it’s essential to address external stimulation. This doesn’t mean giving up on clitoral stimulation or masturbation. On the contrary, research shows that it helps increase the frequency of orgasms.
Cases where a woman never experiences orgasms are rare. Orgasms are often situation-specific and can be influenced by various factors:
- Psychological factors: guilt about sexuality, cultural and religious influences, stress.
- Physical factors: medication use, previous genital surgeries, substance abuse, older age, sexual disorders.
- Behavioral factors: lack of emotional intimacy with a partner, unresolved conflicts.
Insufficient knowledge about one’s sexual needs and preferences is another reason. If a woman knows what intensity, speed, or type of stimulation brings her pleasure, she can communicate or demonstrate it to her partner, thereby increasing the frequency of orgasms during sex.
Sex is not just about penetration; it encompasses a range of practices. To experience orgasms more often during sex, it’s helpful to teach your partner techniques that specifically bring you pleasure and integrate them into your sexual activities. Sometimes, the absence of orgasms is due to insufficient arousal, so starting with foreplay and external stimulation is a good idea.
If you want to learn to experience orgasms specifically from penetration, you can try the “bridge” technique. It focuses on developing vaginal sensitivity by transferring sensations from the clitoris to the vagina, leading to internal stimulation. You can start practicing this technique alone, with separate control.